The difference between some man, your man, or your Father…
(Part 1)
The relationship between a father and a daughter sets the
tone for how the daughter reacts to men for the rest of her life. If the daughter grows up in a home where her
father is present physically, spiritually, emotionally, and financially she
will more than likely be more confident and secure in herself based on her
balanced upbringing. However, if the
father is absent physically and emotionally or physically and spiritually the
daughter will develop trust issues as it relates to men. For example, if a father abandons his family
during the daughter’s early years, she will do one of the following: (1) assume that most men will leave her or
abandoned her, so she hops around from man to man before they have an
opportunity to leave. (2) She will hold
on tight to her man for fear that if she lets him go, he won’t return. (3) She will build walls around her heart to
protect herself from being hurt. She
longs for love or a serious relationship, but the fear of heart break and
abandonment keep her bound.
What if the father was there physically, but absent
spiritually, emotionally, and financially?
Here’s a short story to provide more insight.
Once upon a time there
lived a little girl name Priscilla.
Priscilla’s father was a very powerful man. He was well known and well
liked by everyone that knew him. What
everyone didn't know is that once her father was home with the family he turned
into an unrecognizable person. He was
angry, withdrawn, bitter, and often cruel.
He treated Priscilla’s mother as if she were a child constantly
reminding her of how she didn't measure up to other women. Priscilla loved her father as long as they
were outside of the household, but once they arrived home he treated her and
her siblings as if he was the ruler of a kingdom and they were his slaves.
Before long Priscilla
became very vocal standing up for not only herself, but for her siblings and
her mother. Her father would often
remind her that she was a child and shouldn't speak to adults in that tone of
voice. He mocked her saying she spent
all of her energy defending everyone else, but no one ever came to her aid. That
statement was sad but definitely true; however, she couldn't just stand back
and say nothing while those that she loved were being mistreated. It was
about this time that she informed her mother, “When I grow up I will never
marry a man like that!” And that was
that.
As a family they did
not pray together. There was not much
laughter and absolutely no form of affection.
Priscilla’s father spent most of his and the family’s money on bad
investments. This habit resulted in the
family often going without food, lights, and other necessities. But to the outside world Priscilla’s father
was a king that could do no wrong.
Priscilla’s story happens all too often in today’s
world. It will be interesting to see what
becomes of Priscilla.
To be continued…
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